Cont. Women And Thier Ego

My guess is that in light of his pending deployment, Greg chose quantity over quality.  However, when it came time for Greg to leave he seemed to have a change of heart.  Or did he?  I you ask me (and she's didn't), it looks to me like he was fishing for anyone to write to or call or do whatever it is you do when your social life is put on pause.  Call me crazy.

Nevertheless, it isn’t my decision. Jenny choice was to embrace it.   Let me be clear, I certainly feel okay about loving someone long distance. But this is something else. The words selfish and self-centered come to mind.  Where was his “love” when she pleaded with him to stay...and later to come back?  Hmmmm, but I guess the real question is where is her self-love? 

Women And Thier Ego

I must begin by saying this posting came to be when I learned that my beautiful, successful, intelligent (and I mean PhD smart), friend had, what is in my (optimistic) opinion, a minor setback in her romantic life.  Before I go any further I must state that I, by no means, consider my love life or behavior therein as ideal. But I most certainly believe that one needs to draw the line somewhere! Case and point…

Let’s call the couple Jenny and Greg.  Jenny falls madly for Greg, a military guy who is scheduled to be deployed in approximately a year.  However, a few months into their dating bliss he decides to break up with her. He explains that he never intended to cultivate a relationship in view of his pending deployment.  Hesitant, but still determined he leaves Jenny confused and in a pool of tears, no less. Why now?  He isn’t deployed for another 4 or 5 months? Why break away now?

TO BE CONTINUED…

What’s your guess?

UGLY DAY

So I had an ugly day today. An "ugly day" basically means that no matter what I try or how much makeup I slather on or how many different hairstyles or outfits I go through, I just don't look right. Can anyone relate? Now, there is a very brief moment when the choices present themselves: One could either let the day tailspin out of control, or take a deep breath and turn things around. This sound simple enough, doesn't it? I mean, it's bad enough the hair is frizzy and the face seems abnormally puffy?! Sadly, no. So we battle the frizz with heating tools and hair products becoming more and more frustrated and more and more late. Not to mention missing breakfast, and the final run-through for the very important presentation at 10 AM! So there we are, starving and flustered without a clear thought in our mind when we realize we forgot the disk with all the charts for the presentation...AHHHHHHHHHH!!!

Sound familiar?? Yep, me too! But I wonder...What if, on these days, when we are faced with the decision to turn things around, we pull our hair up and choose to focus on what else makes us great? That instead of saying this is an UGLY DAY, we say this is a top chef day, or a smart day, a be healthy day, or best student day, a great sense of humor day, or world most amazing friend, partner, daughter, sister, co-worker...day? Might our life change??